(The title was adapted from a rubric of premarital Consultation: Am I a gay?-Naudzubillaahi mindzalika-, by the cleric Abu Omar Bashir-hafidzahullah-)
Assalamu'alaikum Warahmatulahi wabarakatuhUstadz, I am a 26-year-old boy. I grew up and grew up in a fairly religious environment.Physically, I also look normal, not lacking anything. For several years I have diligently followed the studies of Islam, so, thank God, my Islamic consciousness rising. However, even here I find myself in big trouble. Inevitably, I must admit that I am a "gay". I mean, I'm not a gay actor. But since my teens I realized that almost or maybe even no desire at all to the women or the opposite sex. Instead, I'm just interested if you see a man who is athletic, or hat-sorry-terli partial nakedness. I've been trying to fight my feelings, even long before I knew the Koran (the study of Islam-ed). But unfortunately, sayab always fail. I'm still growing as a man is abnormal.
Ustadz, I'd love to get married, to refine half of my religion. But, I am very worried. First, I am afraid will not be able to fulfill my obligations as a husband, and it will result in the suffering of my wife later. Secondly, I am afraid it saemakin many sins, if I get married. In fact, after hearing the recommendation Shari'a to get married, let alone the economic life of me fairly well established, it would probably delay my getting married again. Please get a solution for me, Ustadz.
Wassalamu'alaikum Warahmatulahi wabarakatuh
"Abdullah" on God's earth
Wa'alaikumussalam Warahmatulahi wabarakatuh
Thank God, 'alaa kulli Haal
Yes, I've get similar questions from several people, at different times. Instead it made me realize, that the phenomenon of those who have a disease of gays, is not a small issue.These included dilemma worthy mission specifically examined.
Brother, Gentlemen. Humans are created equal, from the ground. From humble semen droplets. Only by piety, a noble man. Humans are also born with all the advantages and drawbacks. Like metals, like gold, silver and others.
"Man is like a precious metal. Jahiliyyah the best in the future, will be the best at the time of Islam[i] . "
With respective advantages, the people were given the ability to do good, and with each of its shortcomings, the people were given the temptation to fight against the passions and bad tendencies.
Yes, each of us have flaws, and to overcome the deficiency in order to survive in truth, we must force yourself.
People who are born with different sexual tendencies, are also included which has shortcomings. The man was born in a state hospital.
But, of course it takes hard work to overcome the disease. So, before we have to reassure ourselves of what that related by the Prophet sallallaahu 'Alaihi wa Sallam,
"Every time Allah sent down the disease, surely Allah sent down a cure. [ii] "
Then, in fact much needed cooperation in efforts to overcome them. From ourselves of course, the elderly, the environment, and schools. That is, if the trend was visible in everyday life.
Example, the tendency of like to play with the opposite sex alone, self-conscious attitude when hanging out with the same sex, let alone the inclination to dress that seemed to discourage feminine, then it must be anticipated early semenja.
Parents are most obliged to anticipate it. Many parents are just proud to see her daughter looks tomboy, or his son look feminine. They even support by providing clothes, toys, and friends hang out in accordance with the tendency of these children. This is very dangerous!
Teachers, friends and the park could also be the cause if the trend will decrease, or even increased.
But the most important is yourself. When someone noticed the trend that is not normal, especially as he already knows the laws of Sharia, immediately instill an attitude of "war" against the tendency of these illegitimate.
Try it, merenugngi Prophet sallallaahu 'Alaihi wa Sallam, "Who did you find committing the people of Lut (homosexuality), then kill the perpetrators." (Reported by Ahmad and Sunan Ashabus)
In another Hadith, mentioned,
لا ينظر الله الى رجل اتى رجلا او امراة فى دبرها
"God will not see a man intercourse with another man or intercourse with a woman from their anus." [iii]
Contemplating these hadiths that would give birth to a strong motivation to fight against the limitations of self, so as not to get caught up in sin and sinners.
Then the second, tanamkanlah confidence in themselves, will be how the baseness of the act. So we are getting tersorong combat.
Third, keep your interactions with other men who appealed to him. Mingling naturally, even if considered dangerous, try to avoid a lot of meetings with them.
Fourth, instill motivation within myself, "I was a real man". Be strong determination, "I'll get married, and 'God willing' to have children.", And determination-determination of a kind, wrapped in a good motivation and as recommended by the Shari'a.
Fifth, many-many are praying and making dhikr. Also do a special prayer, ask God to give healing of the disease.
Sixth, try to ask for prayers for specific people, parents, close friends, and people who are considered righteous, or a small child. "I have a disease. Pray, so that my disease recover quickly. "
Seventh, do not forget the efforts of medical handlers physically. I recommend to perform a variety of alternative treatments, like acupuncture, reflexology, avasinologi, and the like to be perfect to be a man. That stimulates the production of hormones as a male, and suppress the growth of female hormones. I highly recommend taking the herb. But note, that is needed is not a powerful drug, but the herbs which help produce male hormones.
And Allaah knows best, I also suggest doing a lot of the typical male sports, especially martial arts and bodybuilding. Perhaps, martial "po thifan khan", I suggest. Because I heard that this martial, distinguished between movements and calisthenics for men and women. Any matters relating to the activities of men, tend to force the masculine growth hormone. And vice versa.
Henceforth, do not be influenced by Western propaganda that tries to legalize the existence of gays and gay, with their immoral actions and deeds. Yes, that they are lovable and loved, but by no means allowed to grow with the disease they have. But it should be approached and treated properly, so back into a normal man.
There was a young man asked the Shaykh Salih al-Munajjid-may God forgive and have mercy-the tendency of some people thinking that b erupaya justify homosexual conduct under the pretext that it is a natural tendency, not a crime.
He asserts, [1]
We disagree with their statement that sexual orientation is a natural way. Rather it is a distortion of nature. God has regarded it as an act of humiliating and beyond. God has given the punishment to the people of Lut who were never given to any people. God has told us that they are extremely close saemacam torment of those who do wrong. Their statement that the trend is natural, is an effort to propagate such defects and make excuses to justify it.
Many of those who intentionally alter their body shapes to appear to have abnormalities, how can it be said as their nature? God never created anyone to be tortured. But God is His creation to worship Him. God sometimes to test His servants with various calamities to forge their faith and to assimilate their sins and elevating them. Allah is Just to force his servant sinner, then tortured him. Instead of a creature that acts ikhtiarnya-vice by itself, as well as people who have abnormalities of the sex. With that act, they deserve punishment. Allah says, "And it is not God's doing tyranny to anyone."
God will not command ignominious deeds, will you tell God what you do not know. "And Allaah knows best
Furthermore, it is not true that this one disease can not be cured at all, because we are more confident with the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'Alaihi wa Sallam, "Every time Allah sent down the disease, surely Allah sent down a cure." [iv]
Sources:
Marriage Magazine, Vol.8 No.4 July-August 2009, p. 18-20 with a few changes without changing the content.
[1] On that note we nukil, there is no source of decision-Shaykh al-Munajjid saying this.Baarakallaahu fiikum
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